maanantaina, elokuuta 30, 2004

Älä kehu toisen aviomiestä

Mitä deitti-ilmoitusten sanavalinnat todella merkitsevät.

Toisten aviomiehet näyttävät ulkopuolisille naisille ihanilta, mutta vaimoille, jotka tuntevat miehen arkielämässä, eivät aina niinkään. Niinpä ulkopuoliselta naiselta tullut kehu aviomiehen loistavuudesta ei saa vaimolta varauksettoman innostunutta vastaanottoa:
There are two things one should never do: criticise another woman's child or praise another woman's husband/partner. Theirs is apparently a common experience. Rosemary is forever praising her friends' husbands. "How sweet," says she. "He does all the cooking and replaces light-bulbs." What a fool. Does she have to eat all that cooking? Or wait for the light-bulbs to be changed? Or listen to the droning? No she does not. She sees through different glasses. She sees a free spirit, the wives see utterly self-indulgent; she sees handsome and entertaining, they see the same dreary old face and showing off in front of visitors.
Nettiponoaddiktio rikkoo avioliittoja ja estää suhteiden syntymistä:
Cyberporn is not just breaking up marriages. It can have another, even more insidious effect: keeping young people from even forming relationships. C.J., 22, attends a Baptist university in the South. In high school, he said, he was not popular and was uncomfortable with the idea of dating. "I hated myself. I did not believe that any girl would want to go out with me," said C.J. That's typical talk for a teen, but C.J. found cyberporn helped him escape the pain because it gave him "control over situations."

"Their total sexuality is connected to it and their need for a real person is really limited," said Weiss.And in dating, what's more limited than monogamy? "John," another man who spoke to 20/20 on condition of anonymity, said he went 10 years without a relationship after he got on cyberporn. Therapy has helped John reduce his cyberporn habit from 40 to 10 hours a week. But he still keeps his addiction a secret. All these men live in a shadow world, insisting they're just normal guys. Which means anyone of them could be your husband, your brother or even your son.

Eräs ratkaisu seksuaalisesti epäkiinnostavan miehen probleemaan.


Ikisinkut.

Miesjärjestöt Iltalehdessä samanpalkkaisuusvaatimuksesta:
Miehet työskentelevät usein sellaisissa töissä, joista maksetaan vaarallisen työn lisää. Molempien sukupuolten erityisominaisuudet on otettava huomioon, Miessakit ry:n toiminnanjohtaja Tomi Timperi kommentoi. Tilastojen mukaan työtapaturmissa vammautuneista tai kuolleista yli 90 prosenttia on miehiä. Vaaralliset työt ovat miesjärjestön mukaan yksi syy miesten naisia lyhempään elinikään.
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